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Sad News

Apart from the odd story about my children, I tend to keep my personal life mostly separate both from my professional one and from this blog. But I have at the moment what feels like about six thousand unanswered e-mails from readers piled up in my in-box, a huge number of which are inquiries about when Kitty Bennet’s Diary will be released. And I really hope at least some of those who have written to me wander over here and read this post, because I always, always answer all my e-mails and I feel terrible that so many readers out there must be wondering whether they’ll ever hear back from me. But at any rate, I am so grateful for every one of the e-mails I get from all the wonderful readers out there, and I hate feeling like I’m disappointing everyone, so I feel like I really need to offer an explanation of what’s been going on. And I thought about writing a general ‘there’s been a family tragedy’ kind of post, but that seems . . . I don’t know . . . kind of silly, at least for me. It’s not as though posting about it here will make it sadder or harder. So here it goes:

We were expecting a new baby this summer. But very sadly, just after the second trimester had begun, the baby died. It’s been . . . I make my living as an author, and I still can’t think of the right words. Heartbreaking, hard, exhausting . . . it’s been all of those.

I truly love Kitty Bennet’s story, and I’m so excited to share it with everyone–and I will, I promise, and hopefully soon. But going through the copy edits on a book that is *mild spoiler alert* absolutely filled with babies and pregnancy and birth is just beyond me right now.

Thank you so much to everyone who has read the first two books of the Pride and Prejudice Chronicles series, and to everyone who has contacted me saying how much they’re looking forward to this third book’s release. It means so much. And thank you for being patient right now. I will be okay, even if I’m not at the moment. I’m lucky, I know, to have such a happy life to get back to when I can stop being sad.

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4 Responses to “Sad News”

  1. Caroline Starr Rose Says:
    February 16th, 2013 at 12:16 pm

    My miscarriage happened ten years ago — a boy right between the two fellow I have now. I was asked a few months later by a hospital to serve on a panel of women who’d lost children before birth, as still birth, and shortly after birth. The idea was to teach doctors and nurses more compassion for women in this position. It was one of the most painful, important, and beautiful things I’ve ever been a part of.

    As you said at Writer Unboxed, this isn’t a sisterhood of your choosing, but these bonds are a gift. I am grateful for this piece of your life you shared.

  2. Amy P Says:
    March 5th, 2013 at 3:53 pm

    I am so very sorry. I just re-read Georgiana Darcy’s Diary and From Pemberley to Waterloo this past weekend, and while I am eagerly awaiting the release of Kitty Bennet’s Diary I do, unfortunately, understand the difficulty you are having. You will be in my prayers.

  3. Michael Gettel-Gilmartin Says:
    April 19th, 2013 at 9:46 am

    Dear Anna (and your husband),

    I have come here today after reading your post on Writer Unboxed about the publication of Kitty Bennett’s diary. I am a huge Austen fan (as is my wife–it is one of the subjects that bonded us when we first met.)

    I started reading your blog and various other items on your website, and came across this news of your miscarriage. My heart goes out to you and your husband. Between our first son (now 16) and our second (10), my wife experienced four miscarriages. I have never experienced such sadness as this cumulative loss, and seeing the pain my wife went through both physically and emotionally. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you grieve.

    I recently shared the following with a dear friend who has gone through more tragedy than I can imagine, including the loss of her 4-year-old son. It speaks to my feelings about grief, and the way it has its own timetable. It’s also by one of my favorite writers, Anne Lamott: (On her dad’s 90th birthday–he’s been gone 31 years.) “Don’t let anyone tell you ever that you are supposed to stop mourning and missing people you’ve lost. What a crock. Our beloved people are forever.”

    You may not have met your beloved baby, but you knew him or her growing inside you, and your baby is forever.

  4. anna Says:
    April 19th, 2013 at 2:21 pm

    Michael, those are beautiful words (from one of my favorite writers, too!) and thank you so much for sharing them. I’ve had other struggles and hardships in life (as has everyone, of course) but losing our baby has been by far the most painful. And yet, it’s been beautiful in a way, too– but for the loss, I would never have received such an outpouring of love and heartening, lovely messages from so many that I’ve never even met in person, and yet have come into my life just when I needed them most. Thank you for reaching out today, and please let your wife know that women like her who have lost and grieved so many times and yet found the courage to keep going are such an inspiration to me.

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